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The Advantages & Disadvantages Of The Top Three Things To Do With Your Loved One's Ashes

by Sonia Prescott

If one of your loved ones has recently passed away and wanted to be cremated, the next thing that you and your family has to decide is what to do with your loved one's cremated remains. Here is a quick breakdown of the advantages and disadvantages of the top three options for your loved ones remains. 

#1 Scatter The Ashes Somewhere On Land

One of the biggest advantages of scattering your loved one's ashes somewhere on land is that it doesn't cost you anything at all to do it. You just need to pick a place that your loved one enjoyed and go there together with your family to scatter the remains. The only cost is getting everyone to the location that you choose. 

If you are scattering ashes in a publicly owned place, you are probably not going to want to scatter the ashes in front of a park ranger. They may ask you to stop. If you want to scatter the ashes on private land, be sure to ask permission first.

One of the disadvantages to scattering ashes on a random special place is that there will not be a specific place for you to visit and mourn your loved one. 

#2 Scatter The Ashes At Sea

If you want to scatter your loved one's ashes at sea, you are going to need to rent or hire a boat to take you a few miles out. You are allowed to scatter ashes into the ocean as long as you are a few miles away from the shore. The boat rental is going to be the biggest cost with this option.

When you scatter the ashes at sea, you need to make sure that you take account of the direction that the wind is blowing if you want to open up the urn and scatter the ashes into the wind. The best option when scattering ashes at sea is to put the ashes inside of a urn that is biodegradable, such as one made out of paper or wicker, and throw it over so that the urn will sink and degrade in the ocean. 

#3 Bury The Urn AT A Cemetery

Your third option is to bury your loved one's urn with their ashes at a cemetery. When you do this, you will be able to purchase a smaller plot. These smaller plots do not cost as much as fully body plots at a cemetery. You may also be able to put the ashes on another family member's full size plot.

The biggest advantage to this option is that you will have a dedicated place to visit and remember the loved one who has passed. The down side is that even a small plot can be very expensive.

Before deciding what to do with your loved one's ashes, consider how much money you have to invest in the process of storing or scattering their ashes and if you want a permanent memorial to your loved one. Click here to read more.